Tuesday, 4 August 2009

Till Death Do Us Path

....that shit is scary.

thats the only part of my brothers wedding i paid attention to, i was really tired you see i hadn't slept the night before so i was struggling to keep awake

but that woke me up. i mean that is a vow, it's not SUPPOSED to be broken, but we do anyways - lately i've been thinking about why people even bother to get married.

my brother who just got married - him and his wife - they've been together something close to 9yrs - practically live together - they are in love - what difference will a piece of paper make?

i honestly don't get it, i want to get married - eventually lol - but i think its more to do with the fact i get to wear that oscar de la renta wedding dress i want so bad and i get to have a traditional wedding in a cathederal (thats what i want) - it has nothing to do with wanting to spend the rest of my life with someone - at least for now thats what i think.

i'm not so religious so i don't really know the bible that well, but from what i know, i know that once you're married you are not supposed to get divorced and if you do, you can't get married again because that adultery - well at least thats what someone told me.

but what if your husband beats you, are u supposed to stick with him? or are you supposed to leave...if you leave does that mean you can't find someone else?
my cousin says pray - i think don't give me that bullshit - like i know praying is good and it helps - but i mean beating on you thats a real bad situation - and what if the situation doesn't change?

but on the other hand, i believe God can do anything, so he won't let you marry someone who will beat on you, but what if he let the man beat on you to tell that you are in a bad situation and you need to leave...

i hope you get it.

but really why do we even bother to get married? we don't need to wait for marriage to have sex, its legal from when you are 16 - at least thats what the law says - you don't need to get married to live together - you don't need to be married to have a kid anymore - i mean 13 year olds have kids - you don't need both parents to raise a kid - shout out to all single mum's and dad's

so is it just ANOTHER formality?

at my sis in law's bridal shower, everyone kept saying someting about being 'ripe for marriage' or the right age to be married - that made me laugh - i figured its not about finding someone you want to spend your life with, its about being at an age when you should be married?

really what is the essence of marriage??

i hope when i do get married - (i really want to wear that wedding dress) - it will be because i have actually find someone i want to spend the rest of my life with -not really because of the dress.


i'm back to the rainy country -sadly - i miss lagos. i can't wait to go back christmas.


12 comments:

  1. that's d only one you heard? Mugu! even the priest says it like it's a death sentence..."TIL DEATH DO U PART!"
    Why? do we get married you say? well I have an answer. Why do pple buy DVDs when they can rent the same film from blockbusters...cos we like to own ish. I'm not saying marriage is ownership...it's just insurance so both of you know if someone else watches ur DVD u don fuck up!!! u get?

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  2. lol i digg...but once ur in a committed relationship that should be enough insurance...because even when you are married...people still fall in love with 'other' people...so how much of an insurance is marriage really?

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  3. Oh my...that marriage thing let us not go there oh...chai it gives me the ebbe jeebies jare...the only reason I can even contemplate is ONLY because of my girlfriend...OTHERWISE..mba nu o!

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  4. Getting married...
    one of the many things I fear
    about growing up :(
    I'm sure the wedding was beautiful
    congratulations to your brother
    xxx

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  5. @chari...thats so sweet 'ONLY'

    @bubbles...yes it was beautiful

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  6. Aww Chari :-*. Peaches, I was of the same opinion some years ago. I just didn't see the point. But I guess as you experience stuff and see the experiences of other people, your mindset begins to change. Congrats to your bro!

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  7. Marriage...till i get the courage to cross the hurdle called commitment, i'm staying clear of it

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  8. Think its important to get married to the right person and everything else will work itself out.

    My blog link has now changed to http://tonitonesng.blogspot.com/ You should check out my latest post...

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  9. Marriage is mostly for religious and cultural sake. Also in case of divorse (civil) u get alimony and it really insures the relationship.

    Bible says: no sex until marriage, so the committed ones HAVE get married if they want any. If not, the way marriages have become, many would rather not and just be living together, having kids and ish.

    Me who is planning to wait-till-marriage If I don't marry,.........

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