My pops says if a man wants you, tell him he has to work for you. You do not come cheap so he must treat you like you are his whole world, don't accept any less
I know what I want and I cannot accept any less, because to do so I will be compromising myself. This I cannot do because I am all I've got, so what will be left of me if at each bump or hurdle I compromise myself.
Its all about self esteem and self worth. You have to think highly of yourself and be confident in your abilities, you have to sing everyday I am the greatest if you truly believe that.
It is what you project of yourself that people will see, so if you show yourself to be a queen they will most certainly treat you like one.
I am not saying be proud, I am saying be arrogant..and yeah there is a difference.
You can be arrogant in your abilities but yet be humble.
Life is full of troubles, struggles and challenges (quote job 14) but it is also filled with happiness and prosperity. It is the sum of all these experiences that make you who you are.
It is then left for you to decide what you want to do with it your life. Are u going to let your troubles weigh you down? You cannot avoid problems, you just have to be prepared for them.
So don't ever let a man put you down, or tell you, you can't do this or you can't do that. Don't be worried that you won't find a man or you won't find another like the one you just lost.
The thing is there is always someone out there who will treat like you deserve to be treated (note that I didn't say want to be treated but deserve because its not always what we want that we need). He will find you.
My pops says a woman should be wooed, and her man must make her feel like she's on top of the world, he should provide for her, take care of her, protect her, cherish her.
You will always find this man.
You need to stop searching, instead focus on you, make yourself happy, build yourself up, because he can only come into your life when the time is right.
So until you are emotionally, physically and spiritually ready that special guy is not going to show so quit searching.
There are a lot of guys that are perfect for you at different stages of your life, but there will be that one guy who would fit like a glove.
But remember shit happens and you might need to fight to keep him other times you might just need to let go for another man to find you.
Quit looking, its his job to find you and if he does he won't ever let you go.
P.S: I wrote that for a friend. I hope you find what you are looking for.